Wiggling is not dancing. Random grinding is not dancing.
What I do is to bring my hips back and forth in order to commence the proper walk by contracting and relaxing my abdominal muscle.
In addition, when I dance I don't intently make eyes at anyone. I first throw myself into the music, and feel whatever it is in the songs, so the face naturally goes the way my emotions tell it to.
If you need to remind yourselves to wiggle in flashing lights, to grind a man in the dark, to give a pout with striking red lips, I don't think anyone would regard you a 'GOOD' dancer.
I want to declare that: